Working wife , a good idea for me or hazardous one ?

[jkvlondon 5,538]

1 hour ago, MisterrSingh said:

Wonderful women. Nothing like the ones we decry, hence why some of us are able to discern the quality women in our lives versus the devious, one-dimensional trash trying to gaslight society into believing they possess any virtues whatsoever.

Which category do you fall into?

what makes you think it is a lady , could be a clean hearted youth ? ... anyway it is unreasonable to assume that his(Ajeet's)  wife will cheat on him as she has much more to lose than him as she has a child , a home and the respect of his family name . Maybe he is still mentally troubled by his own kaamic thoughts and is projecting , best solution is to let her use her talents in a safe arena so she feels happy and heard  and he works on being close and loving as a family man . This allows him the monetary support he feels he needs and perhaps the lessening of his mental stress but only if he will be able to stop overthinking and imagining calamity at every turn . Remember this is the guys who was insisting on aborting his child because his wife had a fever .

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

4 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

what makes you think it is a lady , could be a clean hearted youth ? ...

It's a woman even if she returns and claims to be a male to discredit my judgement. It's a woman. Only a woman objects to a light being shone on the unflattering and rarely mentioned aspects of her sex's psychology and habits.

When I've dragged Sikh males over the coals on this forum, not one guy ever objected to me doing so. Neither did any Sikh females interestingly enough. Nobody said, "But not all Sikh males are like that." You all quietly accepted my assessment of the situation. Your silence meant you agreed.

As for Ajeet, I castigated him in the past for not having the courage to spurn marriage. He only got married to get his parents off his back. He's deceived a woman into a lifelong union that should never have happened. He tried arguing in the past that what he'll provide for his wife will be no less than what a hetero husband would do for her (and therefore, in his mind, that makes it morally acceptable), which he feels is difficult to refute, yet I believe had the girl known about his orientation there is NO way she would've agreed. She deserved to know. 

Despite all this, he asked for advice, and I gave him my take on the situation. I gave him an unpleasant and stark take on his problem. I won't grind my gears and shower this place with empty platitudes that are useless and impractical. I told him what MIGHT happen based on a few variables in play. I didn't bother softening or sugar coating what he needed to hear.

[Guest Shocked]

9 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Wonderful women. Nothing like the ones we decry, hence why some of us are able to discern the quality women in our lives versus the devious, one-dimensional trash trying to gaslight society into believing they possess any virtues whatsoever.

Which category do you fall into?

The category where we don't tar 50% of the population with the same brush based on stories we have heard.

I would like to think being an optimist isn't a "devious" virtue.

[Ranjeet01 1,990]

On 11/24/2020 at 3:02 PM, MisterrSingh said:

It's a woman even if she returns and claims to be a male to discredit my judgement. It's a woman. Only a woman objects to a light being shone on the unflattering and rarely mentioned aspects of her sex's psychology and habits.

When I've dragged Sikh males over the coals on this forum, not one guy ever objected to me doing so. Neither did any Sikh females interestingly enough. Nobody said, "But not all Sikh males are like that." You all quietly accepted my assessment of the situation. Your silence meant you agreed.

As for Ajeet, I castigated him in the past for not having the courage to spurn marriage. He only got married to get his parents off his back. He's deceived a woman into a lifelong union that should never have happened. He tried arguing in the past that what he'll provide for his wife will be no less than what a hetero husband would do for her (and therefore, in his mind, that makes it morally acceptable), which he feels is difficult to refute, yet I believe had the girl known about his orientation there is NO way she would've agreed. She deserved to know. 

Despite all this, he asked for advice, and I gave him my take on the situation. I gave him an unpleasant and stark take on his problem. I won't grind my gears and shower this place with empty platitudes that are useless and impractical. I told him what MIGHT happen based on a few variables in play. I didn't bother softening or sugar coating what he needed to hear.

The ones who have the power are the ones who are not allowed to be criticised.

[Ranjeet01 1,990]

1 hour ago, Ranjeet01 said:

The ones who have the power are the ones who are not allowed to be criticised.

I see with the downvotes the sisterhood does not like what it is being said. 

[Ranjeet01 1,990]

25 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

I see with the downvotes the sisterhood does not like what it is being said. 

Keep on downvoting

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

28 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

I see with the downvotes the sisterhood does not like what it is being said. 

It's typically feminine behaviour. They can't offer a response rooted in rationality and facts, so they resort to trying to silence the messenger.

The abundance of recent Kaurs on this site are mobilising.

Either that or their pathetic male counterparts are sniffing around in the hope of some scraps as reward for their solidarity.

[Ranjeet01 1,990]

4 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

It's typically feminine behaviour. They can't offer a response rooted in rationality and facts, so they resort to trying to silence the messenger.

The abundance of recent Kaurs on this site are mobilising.

Either that or their pathetic male counterparts are sniffing around in the hope of some scraps as reward for their solidarity.

See the solidarity amongst them critiquing them as a concerned Sikh brother.

The male counterparts think they are getting some kind of approval.

However, put a disgusting Muslim male who talks obscene things amongst them and the Kaurs get very giddy and go off with them and those male counterparts who will defend their "honour" get tossed aside

 

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

42 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

See the solidarity amongst them critiquing them as a concerned Sikh brother.

The male counterparts think they are getting some kind of approval.

However, put a disgusting Muslim male who talks obscene things amongst them and the Kaurs get very giddy and go off with them and those male counterparts who will defend their "honour" get tossed aside

 

[jkvlondon 5,538]

6 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

See the solidarity amongst them critiquing them as a concerned Sikh brother.

The male counterparts think they are getting some kind of approval.

However, put a disgusting Muslim male who talks obscene things amongst them and the Kaurs get very giddy and go off with them and those male counterparts who will defend their "honour" get tossed aside

 

give over , stop being a muppet ...

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

4 hours ago, jkvlondon said:

give over , stop being a muppet ...

It's true. It seems there's an artificial threshold that a fellow Sikh can't cross (even when these discussions are approached with tact) that is simultaneously lowered to the point of nothing when it comes to non-Sikhs. Why is that? Is that the famous Sikh suicidal desire to placate the outsider at the expense of one's own?

[jkvlondon 5,538]

2 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

It's true. It seems there's an artificial threshold that a fellow Sikh can't cross (even when these discussions are approached with tact) that is simultaneously lowered to the point of nothing when it comes to non-Sikhs. Why is that? Is that the famous Sikh suicidal desire to placate the outsider at the expense of one's own?

my parents' generation and my grands generations would have given 'what for ' to anyone disrespecting sikhi, females , family institutions  and interfering with their sikhi , I myself fought to keep the whiteys and kaley at bayand their influence  but my kid bro and sis are not so bothered defending sikhi , the bro just younger than me is stubbornly sikh in look and behaviour in that he will not trim or allow his kids to trim kesh or allow anyone to talk ish about sikhi even if he is not a gurdwara goer , his Indian 'Rani'(as he refers to her is always on at trying to remove the kids' kesh and dastars which he gives her the big NO!)Thankfully because she has some sikhi awareness she has the mistrust of musley , gorey  , sis and her hubby are typical punjabi couple more invested in gaane shaane than sikhi but they are learning , kid bro looks the sikh  biz as does his wife but they are major coconuts and look down on everyone else in family as we do not fit their narrow judgey ideas about sikhi  but they would be easy to roll over on their prejudices if we were gorey, kaley sikhs  where everything is maaf . Remember that yoga ashram in Germany that did mool mantar flooring install on a staircase , rest of family agreed was terrible and needed sorting straight away them two did even bat an eyelid 'it's OK it's because they didn't know ' well the accompanying press release by the owners stated that they knew how important and holy it was that's why they installed it .... Need some major anti-cocnutting strategy of our youth to survive this constant dripdripdrip erosion of sikh values ...

[H908 36]

3 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

It's true. It seems there's an artificial threshold that a fellow Sikh can't cross (even when these discussions are approached with tact) that is simultaneously lowered to the point of nothing when it comes to non-Sikhs. Why is that? Is that the famous Sikh suicidal desire to placate the outsider at the expense of one's own?

Its because theres selfhate in the Punjabi community. Theyll accept the attention of others over their own support

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

9 hours ago, H908 said:

Its because theres selfhate in the Punjabi community. Theyll accept the attention of others over their own support

It's a problem that we need to eliminate. If we don't, it's going to be a huge problem when the time comes for unifying and moving forward.

[MisterrSingh 4,436]

13 down-votes in one hour!