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Waheguru ji ka Khalsa , Waheguru ji ki Fateh , firstly what you are doing is throwing out sikh culture and gurmat for some supposed 'modern' and WISER ???? way , in some mistaken impression you know what Guru ji meant better than he did. If you are happy and grateful for being a sikh on the long line of sacrificing sikhs upon whose bodies you stand then it should not be US the descendents, telling the GURU that 'we know better than you' and altering his given ways to bless you both as a Couple. If you look at the history of the Lavaan it has ZERO to do with Vedic resams as we are dedicating ourselves to Guru ji and making Guru ji our support and centre of our lives (that is why we travel around giving respect, equidistant to the Guru , neither partner becoming a blockage to personal relationship to Guru ji) . If your guy is walking ahead of you it is showing that he will protect and shield you from the unknown harms that could come your way in life as Guru ji has told him to do, so actually it is giving him space to show how much he cares and honours you in sharing your life with him . It is not saying you are lesser in any way so please stop listening to frankly uneducated 'modern' sikhs , as Kaurs are supposed to be supportive and ready step into the breach if life takes out the Singh and protect the future of the panth. The First Anand Karaj was when Guru Amar Das ji Married his own Daughter Bibi Bhani ji to Guru Ram Das ji , did he insist that his daughter walk in front or side by side to Guru Ram Das Ji ? No , he could have done knowing just how blessed and holy she was , daughter to a Guru, Wife of a Guru, Mother of a Guru and GRandmother of the Next Guru also . Was she treated as lesser by anyone ? No , so please leave western ideas of 'equality' and understand Sikh ideas of equality they are much deeper and more expressive then simple minded kneejerk swaps as in western thinking. Yes you are right societal thinking has got you in a tizz but it is not Sikhi but your interpretations of it via the messed up western model which fails to see beauty in the chivalry of promising to protect but sees it as a belittling of the female (how messed up is that? so daughters shouldn't look up to their dads and brothers if they look after them but should be angry) . Guru ji commanded that his sikhs should never ask for daaj or harass the girl's family with demands if they did they are not his sikhs. The bharat was only supposed to be as big as the female's family could host without stressing them . A Sikh was never allowed to cuss out or strike women did this mean Guru ji thought of women as weak flower or was it he wanted society to change their attitude and show just as much love and respect to the girl's family as the boy's family got ? This is the equality he wanted that daughters were married into homes with these attitudes intact not the transactional attitudes that existed in societies dominated by the other faiths. Unfortunately, in your speech I have seen that crass transactional attitude with regards to the raagis , if you are serious about sikhi and doing your life the sikh way , cultivate humbleness because you are begging Guru ji to bless your future together and his Granthi and sewaks will follow Him not you . If you don't want to pay for a particular jathebandi then just get the gurdwara sewak team to do it and donate the difference to the homeless or poor. Raagi jathe following Akal Takht maryada and Guru ji's hukham so do not expect them to answer yes to your folks strange ideas because those ideas are insulting the maryada of Anand Karaj and Guru ji Themself. They know the sikh follows the Guru not the other way around .

You're marrying the love of your life (supposedly), and you're more worried about whether if you're walking behind, beside or in front of him. Rather than booking the nearest wedding date available in great anticipation, to get married to person you love, you're delaying the process because of your insecurities. I suggest you go back to basics and ask yourself, what does this person mean to you? why are you marrying him? and why Anand Karaj? and what is your priority in this relationship? Its not too late to reconsider, modern Sikh marriages suggest that marriage isn't for everyone. As for why the bride walks behind the groom, then that is because your father will pass your husbands pala into your hands. This symbolises that your father is now passing you onto your husband and that you are now a part of your husbands family. The grooms father does not pass the brides chunni into the grooms hand, it is the brides father that passes the grooms pala into his daughters hand. Your sons will also be a part of your husbands family and take their fathers name. Just how Guru Gobind Singh ji narrates the history of his family, the Sodhi clan, the clan of his father Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji. Just how Guru Nanak Dev ji is described as being born into the Bedi clan, the clan of his father Mehta Kalu. Just how Bhai Santokh Singh ji describes that when Guru Nanak Dev ji is born the BEDI ladies(aunts) come around to see Baby Guru Nanak. Guru Gobind Singh ji's hukkam is that a Sikh man should get his daughter married into a house where Sikhi is practiced, why ? because its the bride that is marrying into the grooms family, hence a father should choose a home for his daughter where Sikhi is practiced. Just like that the father of the bride passes the grooms pala into the brides hand, symbolising that she is now a part of the grooms family and their kids will also be part of the grooms family. We have been getting married like that for centuries, its our tradition. If you don't like it, then like others have suggested you can have a registry marriage. @jkvlondon would you like to give this bibi some advise?

We are Sikhs not Cultural Marxists. If you have it the traditional you are both equally distant from Maharaj. If you have both people level then one is going to be further away. You adapt to Sikhi, Sikhi should not have to adapt to your whimsical ways. If you want a western ceremony, I suggest you have a registry marriage. Simples

I really am making a conscious effort to adjust my frame of mind so that I'm not viewing reality from a purely masculine and patriarchal perspective, but reading 5hit like this hammers home the absolute futility of it all. We know what she's going to come back with: "Sikhi is outdated / sexist / patriarchal / anti-female" and we're all pendu b**tards who wants to ruin her special day.

Phone up the various Sikh charity organizations. Tell them you're a Muslim who's being disturbed by his Sikh neighbours who won't stop blasting kirtan. If they seem hesitant to help, say the magic L word. Tell them you need some LANGAR. There'll be trucks, TV cameras, and all sorts outside your B&B as quick as a flash. ?

Cheers just want a good night sleep

Nihangs translate Bhaang in that Tukh to mean Chicken and not Marijuana. Even Bhai Randhir Singh ji who was a strict vegetarian translated Bhaang in that verse to mean Chicken.

There is no discriminatory practice here, as in Gurbani we as an individual are represented as a bride. A lot of today's society is seeing discrimination in places where there isn't. Please try and adhere to the traditional way of Anand Karaj. No one calls discrimination when the bride comes after the groom in christian marriages - it is a metaphor as well In the past, one had to take Amrit to even have an Anand Karaj - http://dailysikhupdates.com/gursikhs-anand-karaj-1900-says-elderly-grandmother/

So there are individuals willing to conduct such a ceremony, but you don't want to pay their rates? Do you not feel the actual religious or spiritual method by which you are enjoined to your partner is worth the financial outlay? So, the problem isn't "Sikh society" but your frugality, because if the issue truly lay with these backwards Sikhs, you'd be unable to find even one individual willing to conduct whatever abominable concoction of religiosity you deem to be en vogue in the current year. As for the rights and wrongs of the ceremony itself I guess it's a matter of tradition. If the ceremony itself is deemed to be so objectionable, I'd find another spiritual framework to latch onto for your wedding aesthetic. If I was in your position and so certain of my convictions, I would reject the Anand Karaj on principle, and instead conduct a secular ceremony more suited to my beliefs and tastes. That's what someone of principle would do.

My father in law sorted my accommodation, so thankful for him

Pendu b**stards ??

It seems that a lot of people are just looking for religious justifications to carry on with their "stoned " lifestyle:

I'm turning 16 this march. Last year during march I was blessed to have darshan of India for the first time ever in my life. Ever since that, I really wish maharaj brings me back there. Whatever you said is literally what I hope maharaj does kirpa for.

@Redoptics How are things going bro?

You could still reach out by phone and see. I could abuse you a bit first? Good on you for looking bro. Oh wait, the abuse!

@RedopticsIt'd be interesting for you to contact groups like emergency Sikh help line and Khalsa Aid etc and see what their response time is like, what their response is, and how ultimately actually helpful it is, and whether it includes the Daswand donated by the Sangat or if it is just informational. You already know the temp of pub mates, why not check the temperature of the broader Sangat and local Sangat while relying just on yourself and Vaheguru Akal Purakh ultimately? It may benefit all of us.

It's a good lesson to learn. Hard the first time.

There they go there they go. The russian dude is here apparently and downvoted me eating his pirogi.

Amen bro.

I know bro. In spirit. If you'd had a friend just with you heading in it probably would've worked out. I'm still wearin that dudes watch in the astral. And eating his pirogi.

Don't give details but how did things get to the point of being homeless? Can it be sorted out?

Shastar are forged in fire. Jaap Naam and keep moving. Talk to all the social services and more importantly the Sangat. Anyone has labor for you take it.

If Kalyug does not favor you, take comfort Veer Ji. You can pm me any time bro.

weed has benifits it helps you chill makes life less stressful, you get creative. i say weed is the hot sauce of life, you dont really need it but it makes life tht much better in moderaton

Has ruined many of the roads in London making it difficult for ordinary people to use cars etc under the excuse of 'being greener' Seems to be quite unliked other than by the 'liberal elites' Wants to lead the agenda to change street names in London in name of 'diversity', and remove historical statues Anyone have any theories about him? Another one working for the capitalists to divide society more and cause resentment amongst the native working classes? https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/jacob-rees-mogg-sadiq-khan-diversity-public-realm-b919432.html Panellists appointed to improve diversity of London’s statues and memorials

I just keep bad luck, I'm really starting to doubt things, tomorrow ill be homeless and just don't know what to do, I have contacted services, and they will also be in touch tomorrow. I feel like I lived a lifetime in 5 years, and now im just tired.

Fair point. I can appreciate it.

Totally agree. But if the OP is from Toronto I understand where she's coming from. We are first generation Sikhs/Punjabis and there's a "boys over girls" mentality here. Hopefully she got the answer she was looking for.

https://www.marijuanamoment.net/serious-injuries-from-domestic-violence-dropped-after-marijuana-decriminalization-study-finds/ Cannabis decriminalization was also linked to a 40.7 percent reduction in severe domestic violence incidents where alcohol was a factor, as well as a 23.1 percent reduction in incidents involving a weapon.

I agree to a certain extent. Learning the classical methods is an art that requires time, specialist instruction, etc. The desire to do so should stem from a love for the medium as well as the "source" being venerated by the music itself. Do you really see any of these qualities in the average Punjabi Sikh?

Thank you veerji ???

It'll be fine, bro. You're lucky you used a credit card! Don't go around to some dodgy Russian's place unless you've got Liam Neeson with you next time. ?

Depending where you are go to your local Gurdwara. Or make a plan to visit a few. Some are open and you will find somewhere to stay in an emergency. Some are strict and closed during covid but others are open so you might have to try a few. Dw Guruji will show you the way. Dont worry about being homeless, I've been there and whilst it's tough and really when you hit rock bottom it's quite an experience and shape us . It's a sad reality tho that sometimes we hav to go through it. Its humbling and sometimes we have to bite ego and take help from family or people we havent been in touch with.

Transaction has already gone through, so the lady from council said best bet is to get a refund, but don't know whats going on.

You can cancel the transfer / payment if it's by credit card. Debit card is tougher from what I can recall.

Paid via creditcard, no homies, everyone I know lives with their parents and everyone using covid as an excuse

I would speak to a lawyer in the morning. It all depends on how you went through with the transaction.

Basically I put down deposit and rent for house, I went to the property, there was a weird Russian guy living there, I tried making chit chat, said he didn't the room to make friends. Then there was a knock on the door and some guy turned up saying I was no longer welcome. I got in touch with emergency services and have been in a b & b, now my money is tied in with other place and I have nowhere to go and no money left. Its straight from a movie, I didn't think stuff like this happens.

That's probably the best response to this question. The cultural and social aspect is important. But somewhere along the way the appreciation and "respect" of the cow became worship.

Very good point. And in india cow was the most common pet. Only cows were tamed and kept inside houses.

I saw this serial last year. It was quite interesting. Although I feel the director has tried to justify the bad guys to some extent.

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/mayor/sadiq-khan-shared-platform-with-five-islamic-extremists-a3231436.html sadiq Khan shared a platform with five Islamic extremists at a political meeting where women were told to use a separate entrance, the Evening Standard can reveal. Labour’s candidate for Mayor of London took part with an activist who has threatened “fire throughout the world”, a supporter of terror group Hamas, a preacher who backs an Islamic state and a Muslim leader accused of advocating attacks on the Royal Navy if it stopped arms being smuggled into Gaza. Invitations said “all welcome” but made clear that women would be segregated at the door, stating: “Ladies’ entrance on Lessingham Avenue next to the snooker club.” Also on the platform was a controversial Surrey vicar and conspiracy theorist who has claimed Israel could have been responsible for the terrorist attack on New York’s Twin Towers Mr Khan was billed on the list of speakers as Labour’s parliamentary candidate for Tooting, despite his insistence that he attended “as a human rights lawyer”.

Cannabis comes in 2 forms: hemp and marijuana Both these forms r a gift of God. Shaheedi degh is the best medicine in the world.

Guest hope, I feel you. I really feel so connected to India. I have only been to India once and I really love India. I want to migrate there when I am older. I love India because there are so so so many itihaasik places and I would love to know more about our sikh history by visiting places.

Those who downvoted, be big and brave enough to say why!

Wrote this just a few days ago.covering this topic: Sadly this had been misrepresentated a lot in our Panth for the last few years mainly by missionaries to the point where many Sikhs have also started believing this. Firstly, it is not buckets milk but buckets of Kachi Lassi. Kachi Lassi in this case is a small portion of milk(about 20%) mixed with 80% water. The reason this is used since ancient times in India is because it does not damage marble flooring. In fact it gives a soft feel to the marble after applying it. The alternative to this is modern chemical based products which can damage the marble long term by corrosion and wearing it out. Besides this these modern chemical based products can also cause cancer and damage the environment. So Kachi Lassi is definitely best suited for this sewa.

Its a vaak of Blessing for the couple. the last sentence translates to Jagdish (parmatma) is being asked to bless the couple so that their jodi/bond may survive for 4 yugas... bhuk chuk maaf

Damn chamchirhee soup!

difference bandia khalsa wear red tat khalsa wear blue bandai khalsa wear turle walli pug with lad from behind tat khalsa wear farla walla duamma with chand torra and other shasters bandia khalsa is 100 $ veshnu no meat no lassun ( ginger garlic ) taat khalsa can eat everything bandai khalsa have charan paul of dehdhari guru taat khalsa have khande di paul bandai khalsa see banda bhadar as guru taat khalsa see guru darbar and khalsa panth as guru similarity bandai khalsa is 24 hours shaster dhari ( but not now ) bandai khalsa has uncut hairs bandai khalsa also has same nitname bandai khalsa also belives in all gurus ( source rattan singh bhangu prachin panth parkash ) ansbans of bandai khalsa is still found at some places and they say that banda bahadar was not dead but he some how managed to escape to kashmir to his sikhs ... and he got married their again ... and his grand sons which rattan singh ji bhangu talked with before writing itehas of banda bahadar say that tehy belong to BAWA gaut ...